We don’t understand ourselves!
An old, but fascinating article, explains that when we get down to being detailed about ourselves, when we try to analyse what and how we feel, we are pretty useless at it.
One experiment mentioned speaks of choosing a poster either by putting down all the reasons for it (one group) or just by the gut feeling about it (second group). Six weeks later, the first group were generally less than happy with their choice as compared to the second group. THen there’s the people who tried to analyse their relationships.
Those who did changed their attitudes, some became happier, soime less so, than those who didn’t rationalize and analyse it.
For me, the most important point was that if you want to know your subconscious, don’t sit around analysing it. Instead the only valid way of getting to know it is by the actions you take, the life you live.
The conclusion made was as follows: “From what researchers know now, Dr. Wilson advises, “We should let our adaptive unconscious do the job of forming reliable feelings and then trust those feelings.”
Back to that old motto… Trust your gut feelings!!
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Good for you!! It’s always good to hear how others let their feelings decide for them. Thanks for posting this. I hope it will help others.